“The deepest level of communication is not communication but communion and faith is what makes communion possible”
Faith enables the deepest form of human connection beyond words.
Sometimes, we spend our entire lives trying to find the right words. We study languages, we practice our tone, and we carefully craft our messages, all in the hopes of being truly understood. But Thomas Merton reminds us of a beautiful, quiet truth: the deepest level of connection isn't actually about the words we exchange. It is about communion. It is that sacred, wordless space where two souls simply exist together in a shared understanding. Communication is the bridge, but communion is the destination where we finally feel at home in the presence of another.
In our busy, modern world, it is so easy to get caught up in the noise of constant talking. We send endless texts, leave long voicemails, and engage in endless debates, yet we often walk away feeling more isolated than before. We are communicating plenty, but we aren't communing. True communion requires a certain level of vulnerability and a profound sense of faith. It is the faith that even when the silence is heavy, there is still a thread connecting us to the people and the Divine around us. It is the belief that we are seen and known, even when we cannot find the vocabulary to explain our hearts.
I remember a rainy afternoon a few months ago when I was feeling particularly overwhelmed by the weight of my own thoughts. I sat in a small cafe with a dear friend, and for the first hour, we struggled to talk. We were both exhausted, and the words felt clunky and insufficient. But then, something shifted. We stopped trying to perform or explain our fatigue. We simply sat there, sipping our tea, watching the raindrops race down the windowpane. In that shared silence, I felt a profound sense of belonging. There were no grand declarations, just a quiet, faithful recognition of each other's presence. That was communion.
This kind of connection is a gift that requires us to quiet our minds and trust in the unseen. It asks us to move past the surface-level chatter and lean into the stillness. When we approach our relationships and our spiritual lives with faith, we open the door to a much deeper intimacy that words could never hope to capture. It is a way of being that honors the soul rather than just the intellect.
Today, I want to encourage you to seek out a moment of silence. Instead of reaching for your phone or trying to fill the air with noise, try sitting in stillness with someone you love, or even just with yourself. See if you can move past the need to speak and instead focus on the simple, faithful act of being present. You might be surprised by how much is said when no one is talking at all.
