“I hope you will go out and let stories happen to you and that you will work with these stories from your life.”
Estes encourages an open and adventurous approach to lifes unfolding narrative.
Sometimes we spend so much time trying to control our lives that we forget we are meant to be participants in a grand, unfolding narrative. Clarissa Pinkola Estes reminds us that life isn't just about following a rigid plan, but about opening our hearts to the unexpected chapters that arrive without warning. To let stories happen to you means to move through the world with a sense of curiosity rather than a shield of protection. It is about being present enough to notice the magic in the mundane and the lessons hidden within the difficult moments.
In our everyday lives, it is so easy to fall into a routine where every day looks exactly like the last. We focus on our checklists, our deadlines, and our obligations, often viewing anything unplanned as an interruption. But those interruptions are often where the real substance of our lives resides. A sudden rainstorm that forces you to seek shelter in a cozy cafe, or a chance encounter with an old friend on a walk, are not just distractions. They are the threads that weave the rich tapestry of our personal history.
I remember a time when I was feeling quite stuck, much like a little duck lost in a heavy fog. I had been so focused on my own small goals that I was missing the beauty around me. One afternoon, I decided to wander without a map, simply letting my feet lead the way. I ended up sitting by a quiet pond, watching the ripples spread across the water and listening to the wind in the reeds. That unplanned moment of stillness became a story of peace that I still carry with me. It taught me that when we stop trying to dictate every second, we allow the universe to surprise us with grace.
Working with the stories of your life means taking those experiences—both the joyful ones and the heartbreaking ones—and finding meaning within them. It means looking back at your struggles not as wasted time, but as essential plot points that shaped your strength. Every scar and every smile is a piece of your unique story that deserves to be honored and integrated into who you are becoming.
As you move through your week, I encourage you to put down your map just for a moment. Try to say yes to a small, unexpected invitation or allow yourself to linger in a moment of unplanned beauty. See what kind of story begins to unfold when you simply let life happen to you.
